I think it’s safe to say that I’m not the only one who has been struggling with the energy of the last few weeks.
Natural disasters, political insanity, full moons, mercury retrogrades and we won’t even get into the personal day to day stuff.
There’s A LOT going on at the moment, and as an empathetic and highly sensitive person, I’ve had all the feels.
As someone who has worked hard to live in a place of joy, one of the biggest struggles I’ve had is finding the balance between my deep sadness for the world, and my utter joy for being alive.
More specifically, I’ve found myself unable to express either emotion for fear of my message being misunderstood.
Because, you see, I have learned that you can experience both deep sadness and great joy at the same time. It is not uncommon for me to exist in a state of awe, admiration, gratefulness and yes, happiness, while at the same time feeling my heart break for the pain I see all around me.
And at times, this ability to see both, to be both, paralyzes me.
How can I share all of the joy in my heart when so many are hurting? Isn’t that insensitive? Will people think I’m callous and uncaring? Do I have the right to be loving life so fully when so many struggle?
How can I share the pain I feel in my heart, the fact that at times I can barely function with the overwhelm of my empathy for our world? Will people think me incapable of coaching them to Joy? How can they trust me to be someone who knows joy if I feel such deep sadness and let it permeate my skin so deeply?
And the thing is, I know the answers to these questions. I’ll be the first to tell you that you should feel ALL THE FEELINGS. Every feeling is valid, essential, and vital to your journey.
But, it took a funny twist of fate, in form of a quote from one of my childhood heroes, a fictional one at that, to snap me out of my paralysis.
Yesterday someone posted the pilot episode of my favorite tv show from when I was about 11 or 12 years old, Punky Brewster. Oh how I loved Punky then. Watching the episode last night, I realized the reason I always identified with that fictional little girl is because her heart was pure and loving, and she may have been the first empath and enlightened being I came across in my young life. She was WOKE folks.
“Henry, can I ask you a question?” she said innocently “If you don’t ever let yourself feel sad, how do you feel happy?”
Well then. Thank you very much Punky. I needed that gentle slap in the face.
As a Joy coach and light worker, I want to lift up the world around me. I want to spread joy, light, love, and all of the things I see lacking. I want to be a positive light for those in need of an uplift.
I don’t want to dwell on sadness and heartache, and I don’t want to bring anybody down.
But my friends, we need all of our feelings. Without the deep sadness, we can’t ever truly experience great joy. We wouldn’t recognize it as such, it would simply be our default state, and would mean so much less to us.
And as much as I want to bring awareness to the great joys in your life, I also want to shine a light on the need to feel and process your pain.
Don’t shove it aside, don’t fake happiness and put on a brave face because the world expects you to smile all the time, don’t avoid the ache because it feels uncomfortable.
Embrace it, learn from it, let it serve the purpose it was sent here for.
As I’m fond of saying, just don’t unpack and live there.
And go watch some Punky Brewster, that girl’s got knowledge!
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